Love or Fake?

How many of you have ever fallen in love? Or thought you had?
....I guessed everyone.

When can you tell if love is real or fake and make-belief? Will there ever be a way of telling?
YES.

Lets think about love logically.

You meet someone, you start meeting up, you sleep together, you make it 'facebook official' and then that's it. But there is always more to the story.

You meet the person, and the first thought in your mind is whether they are cute or not. If they are you make scenarios in your head of how your relationship will be. You start to speak on a daily basis, you make sure that you're always online or in public where they will see you, they speak or you speak, and the conversation is sparked. You decide to meet up, go to the cinema or go for a coffee and a walk around the local shopping hot spot. You have a few awkward moments but the conversation soon begins to flow, you get to find out what they find amusing and the things they like. After the first meet you part ways.

You're thinking how amazing it was and then thinking what they thought of the day. Soon you meet up a second time, then a third then a fourth and eventually you feel as if you're in a real relationship even though neither of you have asked the daunting question.
    You finally sleep together, you think it's going to be fireworks shooting out and romance filling the air. Instead it's awkward, you don't know what to do with yourself of the other person, you don't know your rhythm. After you've slept together, a few dates later the relationship question finally gets asked and answered with a hasty yet almost subtle 'yes'.
    The relationship is then 'facebook official'. And you suddenly think everything is sorted.

But is it?

A few months into the relationships arguments start to appear, the cracks start to show and you're soon accusing each other of all sorts. Cheating, lying, disrespecting, you name it, it'll happen.
   Then what?

The accusations get too much and you decide to become those things, you start to cheat, a cheeky kiss here and there, a fumble in the corner of a club and then it all leads to that....sex.
    You decide not to tell your partner, they decide to do the same to you and the vicious circle forms. You feel guilty so decide to accuse your partner of cheating to try and get the truth out to see if they have cheated on you...They never admit it so in the end you do. They then decide to admit it.

Through all of this you're texting each other saying how much you love them. You still go on dates and pretend everything is fine, you pretend that none of the arguments happened, you act like a loved up couple, laughing, holding hands and kissing.

It's romantic right?.......Wrong!

It is far from romantic.

So is that true love? Maybe.

This situation is similar to a relationship I had, minus the two of you cheating and minus the admitting.

But when we broke up I realised how much I loved him, and realised that no matter how badly we treated each other, I'd always love him.

They say that if you really love someone it'll take you at least 17 months to get over them, and push those feelings of love down below the surface, never to be thought of again.

If this is the case then I still have 10 months left and I don't think I can handle that. I now have a new boyfriend, yet when I sleep at night I still have dreams about my ex. Why? Because the love I felt for him was real, however whilst I'm thinking of him he's made his bed and is lying in it with his new girlfriend. This shows he never loved me, he's long past loving me, it was never felt by him.

And that hurts to even think about let alone write/say it.

I don't want to pine over my ex I really don't, but I do, every day.

You can suppress the feelings but they'll never leave you alone, they'll always be at the back fighting through everything else to get back to the front and when they finally do get back to the front you go through the same again.

That's real love.


The fake love is when you're with somebody but constantly cheat on them. When your partner is clearly not enough for you and the attention they give to you isn't enough so you go scouting somewhere else for it. You go out on a night out and end up sleeping with anyone that gives you a bit of attention.

Fake love is when it's forced. Ever forced yourself to attempt to love somebody? I'm sure you have, that's how most of my relationships have started.

There's a fine line between real love and fake love, you just have to be open minded enough to see it. and if you don't see it then you're more than likely between the two. Real and fake.

So the next time you look at your partner think to yourself, what do you like about them?

If you can answer that question, you're not in love.

To love someone you must accept them for who they are and love them with all of their good and bad points. You will always want to be there for and with them and you'll never want to see them walk away - even just to go home. You'll want to be around them every second of the day....
....If that isn't how you feel, when you walk away from each other - Don't go back.