Marriage

So, I've always wanted to be a wedding planner ever since I was little and I'm now on track to fulfilling that dream by being a full time student of events management. However, recently I've been watching a few episodes of The Hotel and Don't Tell The Bride and have been thinking, is a wedding really appropriate?

Something came to mind the other day when I thought, do you need to get married to have a happy relationship? I mean, I understand why religious people get married, it's part of their beliefs, but why get married just to prove you love one another?

I was reading a story the other day about a couple who have been together for over 26 years and that couple have not been married. All this time they've built up a life together, had children and created a family and are living the happy dream that most couples wish to have, they aren't married. Maybe they are so happy because they haven't gotten married and they don't have the stress of being a good husband or wife holding them down.

I mean, I understand again why most get married, some people do it to show their love for one another, you don't need to be married just to have a healthy, sustainable relationship. In fact you don't even need to get engaged.

I sometimes feel that most couples, especially young couples nowadays tend to get engaged because of programmes like The Hotel and Don't Tell The Bride, these shows are broadcasting big, white, princess weddings to the future of society and these people then decide "I want to do that". Don't get me wrong, I would love to get married one day, it's one of the things I've always wanted for myself and like all women a part of me wants to get married because of the big, white wedding, however the main lust I have for a wedding is based purely on the fact that I'm a Roman Catholic and it's a part of me that wants to keep to that religion. Now I'm not the most religious person in the world, I smoke, I drink alcohol and have sex without being married, but I do take some parts of my religion seriously, like being against abortion, believing in God and wanting to be married in the eyes of the Lord.

But others don't want that, the fantasy of being somebodies wife and having their big wedding day which is all about them are some of the only reasons why they want to get married. The do it because a wedding is the most important thing in their eyes (which is of course a load of bull), they want that one day where everyone has to look at them and think "Oh I'm so jealous". You know what? Grow up.

Marriage is to be taken seriously. You do not build a marriage up on a wedding alone, you do not get married and suddenly you're marriage is complete. No. A wedding is just the beginning and is meant to be a religious and meaningful ceremony in which it brings to people and two families together, in the eyes of the Lord. It brings two families to join as one and create a bond so that they can support and cherish their family members, new and old and to unite the couple as one. So that couple can embark on new adventures together and so that they can become a real couple, a couple blessed with a new family and a new life ahead of them.