Perspective

I have just watched a documentary. A sad documentary. A very very sad documentary.

I am sure a lot of you if not all of you have seen it, no matter where you are in the world but I have only just come accross it.

It's about a young boy, just 18 years old, called Zach Sobiech. I'm sure you have heard of him. He had terminal cancer, osteosarcoma. He was slowly dying, from the age of 14, a poor kid ,who hadn't even had the chance to live his life fully. The documentary was about how he was living his life, and not letting his cancer take away his happiness. He seemed so content with life. With a wonderful and gorgeous girlfriend, an incredible family and friends many of us could only dream of having. He looked so happy, he seemed to have so much potential in him, and my heart broke when watching it. Because it made me realise how life can be so short and cruel sometimes and how I, and many others, take advantage of the lives that we have.

He gave so much, he loved, he cherished everyone, he had such a positive outlook on life even though it was throwing him so much pain. He made music, something to say goodbye to his family, something for them to hold on when he had gone.

He is such an inspiration. He was so talented, he had so much to give to the world, if only he had the chance to do so. Instead he passed away, this year in fact, not too long after his 18th birthday. Yet he's left this impact on everyone that knew him, of everyone who has seen the documentary about his life. He's left a song that changes everything. One listen and your whole life is put into perspective for you.

It isn't about complaining about things that have very little to do with life, it isn't about letting people decide on your happiness or letting yourself go.

It's about changing things, making a difference to the people who mean the most to you, making a difference to the world. Doing something that will make people remember you, that will leave this impressive and huge impact on everyone. Even those who don't even know you on a personal level. People who live the other side of the world to you. It's changing their whole outlook on life.

I have been blessed by seeing this video because it's given me the incentive to change my outlook on life and to realise that you won't always get the chance to be happy, because one day you won't be here to be happy.

I recently lost my grandfather to cancer, and that changed a lot for me, that changed me as a person. But seeing Zach's documentary and listening to his song has changed everything else for me.

30 Facts About Me

So I know a lot of you are probably thinking who I am and why I blog about the things that I do. So I have decided to let you all in on my life and give you some facts about myself. Just for the fun of things and to lighten up my blog after the posts that I have previously written.

So here goes.......

1. I was born in South Wales, United Kingdom
2. I am half Welsh and half Italian as my father and his family are Italian
3. I have family all around the world including America, Spain, Italy, France and many more places
4. I am a university student studying Events Management
5. I was a street dancer for 3 years and came third in the World Streetdance Championships within my first year of dancing
6. I want to live in Australia or America when I graduate from university
7. I sing, (used to) dance, write lyrics, blog, draw & paint and write short stories
8. I have been writing a novel the past year which I hope to have finished in the next few years (trying to get everything perfect)
9. I value my friendships more than anything else (except for my family) and believe that the respect I give them should be returned
10. I am more mature than most people I know my age
11. I value my personal relationships and always put in as much effort as possible to maintain the relationship that I am in 
12. I have a life-plan in place and have done so since I was 18. 
13. My main goal in life is to have a successful career once I have graduated
14. I don't want to be rich but I would like to have enough money to be able to pay my bills and still have some left over for shopping and going on annual holidays
15. My favourite TV show is Hollyoaks
16. I own one pet, being a beautiful black cat
17. I have one tattoo at the moment which is dedicated to my deceased pet dog Morgan, she was my best friend for 12 years and my tattoo is there for a sign of my love to her
18. I only now have one piercing, that being a lip piercing however I used to have this piercing along with a nose piercing, ear piercings and a top ear piercing
19. When I see tattoos on people that were only had for the fun of it, it angers me mainly because I believe to scar yourself with ink for the rest of your life should be done only for that scarring to be important and personal
20. I am currently in love with somebody who means everything to me
21. I keep in touch with those who bother to keep in touch with me
22. I can be a cow sometimes and sound a bit too stuck up in some people's eyes
23. I currently work for an events company that own two night club venues
24. I volunteer as much as possible, I currently permanently volunteer for WIN which is a company based in Northampton, I will be volunteering for Silverstone in June and August for the Formula 1 and Grand Prix and previously I have volunteered for Marie Curie and Macmillan Cancer Research
25. I help others whenever I can 
26. I don't believe in Racism or Sexism or Fascism or anything ism
27. I don't feel the need to brag about my experiences with men - Things like that should be kept personal
28. My favourite musician/artist is Lady Gaga 
29. My favourite band is Lostprophets and even though bad things have been said about the lead singer I always be a fan of theirs, I will not judge the rest of the band on one member's actions
30. And finally, I believe everybody should be given a second chance - But not everything deserves forgiveness.

So that's me, summed up in a nut shell :) 30 probably not so interesting facts about myself. 

Just Love or In Love?

There is a relatively large difference between loving someone and being in love with them and recently it has come to my attention that certain people do not know the difference and this has started to get on my nerves, knowing that these people do not know the difference yet they throw the words around as if it means nothing.
People as young as 13 seem to be throwing the term "I love you" around and it's clear that none of them know what it really means. They also claim that they are in love with a person they have only been in a relationship with for a short period of time and although it can take only seconds to fall in love with a person and it can happen at any age, it doesn't mean that these children know what the terms even mean, and it's clear that they have no idea what the difference it. But there are adults that are the same, not knowing the difference is. So here's a little something to help you know.

I LOVE YOU
So do you know what "I love you" means? You can love anyone, a friend, a family member, a pet even a partner. You can love anybody and anything, even an inanimate object but it does not mean you are in love with them or it. So, you love your partner? Your boyfriend or girlfriend? Then okay, but what is loving someone? It is caring for them, wanting to be there for them, looking after them in their hour of need, but more importantly it is loving them for who they are and taking them as they come without wanting to change a thing about them. It's basically just having strong feelings for a person, whether it is a family member or not.
It doesn't seem like much does it? To say I love you to somebody who means something to you. But it is in their eyes, because although it means you aren't in love with them, it still means you care and want to be near them or spend time with them.

Now, what about this...

I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU
Being in love with somebody is completely different to just loving them. There is more to it. Being IN love with someone comes from the bones, from every single inch of you. You feel it all over your body. When that one special person comes near you you get butterflies in your stomach, you smile even at the thought of them and you have a stupidly huge grin on your face when you see them. It's wanting to be with them every second of the day and being unable to think of your life without them. It's wanting to take care of them at every opportunity you get and wanting to make sure that they are always close by. Being in love is having that one person on your mind every second of the day, and worrying about whether they are thinking of you. They are the first person you think of when you go to sleep and the last person you think of before you go to bed at night. They are your whole world who gets you out of bed in the morning because you know you'll be able to see them. And there is so much more but I think I've made the point.

So, has that summed it up slightly? Given you all an insight into the difference between the two? I hope so. Maybe now the terms won't get mixed up or mislead somebody.

Thatcher

I have seen all over the internet people talking about Margaret Thatcher's death and her funeral. I have witnessed some disgusting view and opinions of her being pasted over the internet on sites such as Facebook and Twitter and I have got to say, I do not agree.

People have been celebrating her death and to me I believe that is it morally wrong. No matter what your personal views and opinions are of a particular person, you should not let those wish to celebrate their death. Where is the respect? Fair enough, you don't like the woman. Clearly not many people do, but that does not give you the right to write some of the horrid things you write about her. Think of her family and friends, the people who did actually like her when she was alive. Would you like it if somebody in your family died and their death was celebrated, not for the life they lived, but for finally leaving this world? No, You would not. I certainly wouldn't.
And so no matter what my personal opinions are of Thatcher, I still would not celebrate her death or be glad that she has gone. What she did when she was Prime Minister was over ten years ago, and therefore it needs to be forgotten because what she did wrong, has been corrected. And that is all that matters and that should not depict whether you celebrate her death or not.

I was not born when Thatcher was the PM of the UK and therefore I do not know exactly what she did and did not do for our country. I was never brought up in a household that knew a great deal about what happened in politics because my family did not care. To them, they felt that it had nothing to do with them and they were not bothered, therefore I was never taught about what Thatcher did. All I have ever known about Thatcher is what I have read on the internet or what others have told me.

The main thing that grinds my gears about Thatcher, is that tax payers are expected to pay a certain amount of her funeral, bearing in mind that the funeral is expected to cost at least £10million. This is outrageous! Why should tax payers pay for a funeral for someone that most of them did not like, and in general.
It is her funeral, not ours, and therefore her family should pay. I'm sure she had more than enough money kept in her bank accounts over the last few years that could foot the bill for her funeral. I mean, how is it even justified? The government's justification is that they are footing the bill, whereas this clearly isn't true, and it is clear the it is in fact taxpayer's money that is footing the bill. But will we get anything for it? No!

So why on earth should we pay for that woman's funeral? What did she ever do for us exactly? I know she did do some stuff that was good for our country but she also did some stuff that was inexplicable.

I am glad that I am not a taxpayer due to being a student who doesn't earn enough to pay tax (not because I'm dodging it like some people do) because I would not want my money paying for that woman's funeral! But then again, the tax I have paid in the past from a past employment is probably going to go towards her funeral and I really do not see why it should.

A funeral is meant to be meaningful and personal to a particular group of people. Family and friends are meant to be the people who put to rest their deceased family member/friend and then celebrate their life at the wake, it should not be paraded through a town for millions to see just because they were once the Prime Minister who quite frankly disgusted most of the UK.

I would not want my money paying for somebodies funeral, especially to not pay for a funeral for a woman who brought in Section 28 - Anti-gay act! I mean come on, what kind of sadistic bitch would do something like that? Homophobes are disgusting and make me want to punch them in the face. Not that I ever would because I'm not a violent person. But being Prime Minister and bringing in an act such as Section 28 was unacceptable and morally wrong. Thatcher went on about how teaching children that homosexuality is morally wrong, and then banned those children from being taught about it. Forcing people to stop running LGBT societies incase they were in breach of the act. IT WAS WRONG.

What happened to equality? Then again I suppose PM's don't understand equality seeing as they seem to be ruining the lives of poor people for their own gain.

But what I really want to know, so somebody please enlighten me, is what taxpayer's are actually paying for? Her family are paying for the transport, the flowers, the coffin and most probably the venue/catering for the wake (if they do one). So what else is left for taxpayer's to pay for? Cancelling public transport, closing roads, stopping people being able to go to work without delays etc? Exactly what I thought. We aren't paying for anything remotely important for her funeral. Therefore leave it for her family. £10million is a ridiculous amount for a funeral anyway, what is she trying to do? 'One up' Michael Jackson's funeral or something? Or are taxpayer's paying for the cameras that will film her funeral? Ridiculous!

Moral of the story - EVEN THOUGH HER DEATH IS SEEN AS A TRAGEDY TO MOST - TAXPAYER'S MONEY SHOULD NOT FOOT THE BILL OF HER FUNERAL. I FEEL DISGUSTED THAT THEY EXPECT THOSE WHO PAY TAX TO PAY FOR A HOMOPHOBIC'S FUNERAL!

Politics

I always used to find politics boring, the whole voting business and choosing someone to basically tell you what you can and cannot do always seemed pointless and boring to me. But over the past few years, the more I have matured and the more politics have become televised it's started to get my attention a lot more. And what's the worst? The past few months it has angered me more than I ever imagined something could. 

A man I know is disabled with Cerebellar Ataxia and a few years ago he was accused of fraud for receiving incapacity benefits after he had fallen in work and needed time off work to mend a broken ankle and knee (all on the same leg). Not long after this started he was then, alongside this, accused of claiming DLA (Disability Living Allowance) under fraudulent circumstances. A long and tiring investigation was carried out for both of these accusations from the government. Finally, when the man turned up at court, walking with the assistance of not only his wife but a walking stick because of his then recent injuries from work, the court room and magistrate took one look at him and there and then decided to drop all charges against him. 

This man has been disabled with Cerebellar Ataxia since he was eighteen, when this all happened he was roughly early to mid forties of age. 

What angers me about that paragraph is that the government accused a man, who had been disabled at that point for almost thirty years, who had claimed DLA because of his disability, was accused of fraud just because he had to claim incapacity benefit because of a fall at work that was caused by an idiotic man making a disabled man, who had and still has a pretty much non existent balancing mechanism, to climb on a computer/desk chair to fix a broken security CCTV camera. But the fact he was accused of fraud is inexplicable and undeniably ridiculous. Understandable most people who receive DLA and incapacity benefits are fraudulent but in this case it is clear that this man was in no way, shape or form trying to receive something he may or may not have been entitled to. 

The moral of this part is the fact that the government need to seriously consider how their accusations can affect a person and even that person's family.

Recently we all know, who are in tune with the news that most people receiving DLA have been questioned and investigated as to whether their claiming it legitimately or fraudulently. What some fail to see is that David Cameron, the man himself who has issued warrants for these people to be investigated receives DLA himself. Personally, I have never seen anything about him having a disability and I have never heard him mention that he is disabled or what his disability may be. He might want to keep it on the down low which is of course his business, but with the salary he earns and the benefits he gets, including his mortgage being paid, his bills being paid and the other benefits and 'added extras' he receives because of his "employment" he doesn't deserve to be on DLA. DLA is there for the disabled that need it, of course every disabled person is entitled to DLA no matter how severe their disability is, but with Cameron receiving all the money he does at the moment, he doesn't deserve to receive it. The money he receives every year from DLA could go to somebody else who probably cannot get it because so many people are on it who don't need to be.

On another topic, the recent issues with money, tax and other issues revolving around the government. I don't understand why they think it is okay to take more money away from those who need it the most and give £10,000 worth of tax or whatever back. HOW IS THAT EVEN LEGAL?

But then again they always say, you fend for your own..So clearly because Cameron and everyone else are rich bastards they have to look after the rest of the rich people out there and give them even more money which they'll probably spend on a new Rolex watch even though there are people out there who are being threatened to have their houses repossessed because they can't afford to pay their bills because all of their money goes on tax! There are families starving, CHILDREN starving because food is too expensive to buy. Where is the justification in all of this?

And the WORST of all, the fact they are trying to privatise the NHS. Why? So that people can die because they can't afford to buy the medication they need or afford to pay to see a doctor? Oh no wait, the rich won't have to worry about that, with the extra £10,000 they'll have in their pockets will be enough for them to afford all the medication in the world that they need! 

THERE IS NO JUSTIFICATION TO TAKING MONEY OFF THE POOR AND GIVING IT TO THE RICH! 

Marriage

So, I've always wanted to be a wedding planner ever since I was little and I'm now on track to fulfilling that dream by being a full time student of events management. However, recently I've been watching a few episodes of The Hotel and Don't Tell The Bride and have been thinking, is a wedding really appropriate?

Something came to mind the other day when I thought, do you need to get married to have a happy relationship? I mean, I understand why religious people get married, it's part of their beliefs, but why get married just to prove you love one another?

I was reading a story the other day about a couple who have been together for over 26 years and that couple have not been married. All this time they've built up a life together, had children and created a family and are living the happy dream that most couples wish to have, they aren't married. Maybe they are so happy because they haven't gotten married and they don't have the stress of being a good husband or wife holding them down.

I mean, I understand again why most get married, some people do it to show their love for one another, you don't need to be married just to have a healthy, sustainable relationship. In fact you don't even need to get engaged.

I sometimes feel that most couples, especially young couples nowadays tend to get engaged because of programmes like The Hotel and Don't Tell The Bride, these shows are broadcasting big, white, princess weddings to the future of society and these people then decide "I want to do that". Don't get me wrong, I would love to get married one day, it's one of the things I've always wanted for myself and like all women a part of me wants to get married because of the big, white wedding, however the main lust I have for a wedding is based purely on the fact that I'm a Roman Catholic and it's a part of me that wants to keep to that religion. Now I'm not the most religious person in the world, I smoke, I drink alcohol and have sex without being married, but I do take some parts of my religion seriously, like being against abortion, believing in God and wanting to be married in the eyes of the Lord.

But others don't want that, the fantasy of being somebodies wife and having their big wedding day which is all about them are some of the only reasons why they want to get married. The do it because a wedding is the most important thing in their eyes (which is of course a load of bull), they want that one day where everyone has to look at them and think "Oh I'm so jealous". You know what? Grow up.

Marriage is to be taken seriously. You do not build a marriage up on a wedding alone, you do not get married and suddenly you're marriage is complete. No. A wedding is just the beginning and is meant to be a religious and meaningful ceremony in which it brings to people and two families together, in the eyes of the Lord. It brings two families to join as one and create a bond so that they can support and cherish their family members, new and old and to unite the couple as one. So that couple can embark on new adventures together and so that they can become a real couple, a couple blessed with a new family and a new life ahead of them.

University and relationships - a recipe for disaster?

The minority of people used to start university in a relationship, in recent years it has been proven that the majority of people will start university single. Why? because somewhere down the line people have begun to realise that university is all about having fun. Can you have fun when being tied down? Not being able to go out and have a few too many drinks with your friends and stumbling home with a kebab in one hand and a can of pepsi in the other? Well, only you can answer that.

I know a few people in university who started it whilst being in a relationship, all but two have now split up with their ex boyfriends and are hooking up with boys all over the place. It's what students are like.

Everybody wants to be able to get the chance to sleep around when in university, most people only go to university for this but some take it a step too far in some ways. I can understand why people want to sleep around, it's the feel of excitement and the thrills they get when doing so, knowing they can have a man underneath (or on top) of them any night they wish. I've never had this thrill because I don't believe in becoming a slut because "I know that I can".

But others do this within the first term of their first year, and when they have done it they decide it isn't for them. They may begin to wish that they had never broken up with their partner, or they may decide it's time to find somebody else and settle down with them, maybe somebody from university.

But is that wise?

Personally I believe that it is not. Just because you decide to dump somebody and shag everything that moves in your first term just to get it out of your system, doesn't mean you can then think "Oh I made a mistake" and try to run back to that ex. You ended it so you must get over it. But then jumping into a relationship with somebody in the same university that you've only known for a few months is a little bit pathetic too don't you think? I mean come on, you see them for three months, then you go home and don't see them for three weeks, you see them for another three months, go home for three weeks, you see them for two-three months and then spend the whole summer thinking "Oh my god the distance is just too much". But you decide to ignore it as you visit once or twice and then you're back at university together.

What happens after university? Do you move to the same town, do you move back to your individual homes like before? What do you do? You don't know do you?

Whereas take me for example. I came to university single, I know I was going to want to explore and get some thrills and therefore I stayed single for months before university. When I came. I kissed a few lads and had a fumble with some of them. But I never slept with them, because I have respect for myself. When I went home for Christmas I started dating somebody I had dated once or twice before going to university, we got along and eventually we then got into a relationship. Since being back at university we've drifted slightly, not due to any of us, simply because with the work load and the busy days it's hard for us both to text all the time or call every day. Granted we do speak a lot when we do get the chance, and we do send the odd texts here or there throughout the days and this is what makes our relationship work. This along with trust for one another.

I'm now happy in my relationship, I don't feel the need to call him every ten seconds or text him when I feel I have to. We speak when we want to or need to, we plan to see eachother, for example he's coming to visit me at university on Valentines Day and then we'll be seeing eachother when we both get home at the end of March. It's not awkward and it isn't difficult either. We get along great and even with the distance between we both hold on to the fact that we'll be in the same country in no time for three weeks. And then we'll be able to do the same thing again after Easter. Because we both know that when we get back at the end of April / beginning of May we will see eachother for a good few months before September comes around and we have to go back to university.

This is what makes us stronger. We didn't get into a relationship before we both went to/went back to university and that helped the relationship when we did decide to get together.

What I'm saying is, going to university in a relationship may seem like a great idea to begin with but it will always end the same as it does for everybody else. Give it time, go single, get the wild shinnanigans out of the way in your first term or first year and that way when you do find a relationship, whether it be with somebody from back home or from university. Just make sure though that it is the right decision.

There is nothing worse than making the wrong decision...So think wisely and cautiously.

Until my next post

Good Luck and Happy Holidays

Love or Fake?

How many of you have ever fallen in love? Or thought you had?
....I guessed everyone.

When can you tell if love is real or fake and make-belief? Will there ever be a way of telling?
YES.

Lets think about love logically.

You meet someone, you start meeting up, you sleep together, you make it 'facebook official' and then that's it. But there is always more to the story.

You meet the person, and the first thought in your mind is whether they are cute or not. If they are you make scenarios in your head of how your relationship will be. You start to speak on a daily basis, you make sure that you're always online or in public where they will see you, they speak or you speak, and the conversation is sparked. You decide to meet up, go to the cinema or go for a coffee and a walk around the local shopping hot spot. You have a few awkward moments but the conversation soon begins to flow, you get to find out what they find amusing and the things they like. After the first meet you part ways.

You're thinking how amazing it was and then thinking what they thought of the day. Soon you meet up a second time, then a third then a fourth and eventually you feel as if you're in a real relationship even though neither of you have asked the daunting question.
    You finally sleep together, you think it's going to be fireworks shooting out and romance filling the air. Instead it's awkward, you don't know what to do with yourself of the other person, you don't know your rhythm. After you've slept together, a few dates later the relationship question finally gets asked and answered with a hasty yet almost subtle 'yes'.
    The relationship is then 'facebook official'. And you suddenly think everything is sorted.

But is it?

A few months into the relationships arguments start to appear, the cracks start to show and you're soon accusing each other of all sorts. Cheating, lying, disrespecting, you name it, it'll happen.
   Then what?

The accusations get too much and you decide to become those things, you start to cheat, a cheeky kiss here and there, a fumble in the corner of a club and then it all leads to that....sex.
    You decide not to tell your partner, they decide to do the same to you and the vicious circle forms. You feel guilty so decide to accuse your partner of cheating to try and get the truth out to see if they have cheated on you...They never admit it so in the end you do. They then decide to admit it.

Through all of this you're texting each other saying how much you love them. You still go on dates and pretend everything is fine, you pretend that none of the arguments happened, you act like a loved up couple, laughing, holding hands and kissing.

It's romantic right?.......Wrong!

It is far from romantic.

So is that true love? Maybe.

This situation is similar to a relationship I had, minus the two of you cheating and minus the admitting.

But when we broke up I realised how much I loved him, and realised that no matter how badly we treated each other, I'd always love him.

They say that if you really love someone it'll take you at least 17 months to get over them, and push those feelings of love down below the surface, never to be thought of again.

If this is the case then I still have 10 months left and I don't think I can handle that. I now have a new boyfriend, yet when I sleep at night I still have dreams about my ex. Why? Because the love I felt for him was real, however whilst I'm thinking of him he's made his bed and is lying in it with his new girlfriend. This shows he never loved me, he's long past loving me, it was never felt by him.

And that hurts to even think about let alone write/say it.

I don't want to pine over my ex I really don't, but I do, every day.

You can suppress the feelings but they'll never leave you alone, they'll always be at the back fighting through everything else to get back to the front and when they finally do get back to the front you go through the same again.

That's real love.


The fake love is when you're with somebody but constantly cheat on them. When your partner is clearly not enough for you and the attention they give to you isn't enough so you go scouting somewhere else for it. You go out on a night out and end up sleeping with anyone that gives you a bit of attention.

Fake love is when it's forced. Ever forced yourself to attempt to love somebody? I'm sure you have, that's how most of my relationships have started.

There's a fine line between real love and fake love, you just have to be open minded enough to see it. and if you don't see it then you're more than likely between the two. Real and fake.

So the next time you look at your partner think to yourself, what do you like about them?

If you can answer that question, you're not in love.

To love someone you must accept them for who they are and love them with all of their good and bad points. You will always want to be there for and with them and you'll never want to see them walk away - even just to go home. You'll want to be around them every second of the day....
....If that isn't how you feel, when you walk away from each other - Don't go back.

Bullies or broken?

I've been deciding over the last few months about what I should make this blog about and how I can use it to its full potential. After many months of thinking and researching I've decided that instead of writing about fashion or documenting every move of a celebrity, I'm going to use this blog as a way of expressing my opinions and feelings about issues that arise day-to-day.

So this first real blog is about bullies and coming to a conclusion about why bullies do what they do and whether they do it for fun, because they're cruel, because it's the "fashion" within a young society or because they are in fact, broken.

When I was in school I used to remember how my sister and myself were bullied, even from a very young age, as young as six in fact.

My sister used to get bullied because of her appearance, we both did, but the bullying she received was much more severe than mine. The girls in her year used to call her every name under the sun, whether it was about her teeth (which used to stick out and look bigger than others) or about her ears (which used to poke out of her hair), no matter what they chose to bully her about, they used every name possible to bully her with. When I think back to that I think of how cruel it was. They used to push her to the floor, hold her arms and legs own, put mud and sticks in her hair, throw stones at her and put mud and grass in her mouth to the point they would almost suffocate her. Why would children as young as six do that to a person? I know for a fact who those people are however I won't name and shame because I'm not that type of person, and quite frankly I don't want to be sued for slandering a person over the internet. But I knew the people's background, I knew who their parents were and how they were treated. Where I grew up it was very easy to know how children were treating by their family because everybody spoke to everyone. It was a small town so family life and secrets didn't stay low key for long.

So yes, the children who bullied her were the eldest out of all of their siblings, and they were treated like the prince and princesses of their families, so that doesn't explain why they would bully somebody. If they got everything they wanted then they didn't need to seek attention from acting in a vile manner. However, they still bullied. So what was the underlying cause of that?

When I was in school, mainly from year seven to year eleven I was bullied a lot. I'm not the prettiest girl, I wasn't out of my classmates either and I certainly weren't the thinnest. I was always bullied for being "fat", for not having a perfectly skinny body and for not being able to see my bones. This made me feel horrible. The people who bullied me I have now come to realise were the ones who were the most unhappy about their own appearance. When I was in school they seemed to take bullying as a trend, that because one person did it you had to do it to ensure that you were accepted into their social 'clan'. But now when I look back I realise it was so much more, because the people that bullied me have now modified their body with steroids, fad diets and medical facilities to help them gain the bodies they wanted back in school. For example, one girl who bullied me on a daily basis, I have now found out was anorexic through the last few years of school. I have only known about this recently but it now makes sense to me and has helped me understand why she bullied me for being "fat", because she thought she was, however this information still doesn't mean it was necessary to make someone else feel rubbish about themselves.

Another girl in school used to call me all the names she could that means "fat" and she used to say that my boobs didn't count because they were "fatty" and not real boobs. In the past year she has had a boob job. This explains why she bullied me but again it doesn't mean she had the right to bully me and others.

So the reason those people bullied me were because they felt so awful about themselves they had to make others feel bad to help them feel good. And I guess for them it worked but for the person they bullied it didn't. It made them feel self conscious with no confidence in their self at all and at one point did make them want to commit suicide. Yes, I mean me when I refer to the person as "them". After being bullied for more than five years it begins to take its toll and eventually I didn't know what to do. So I tried to commit suicide. A lot of times in fact.

By these two stories alone you can see that most bullies are broken. That there is an underlying cause for their behaviour which is mainly personal based. Their personal lives have an effect on their social lives.

But in recent years it's becoming a trend in the young society. If you aren't a bully you aren't popular. If you don't  make somebody feel worthless then you may as well be worthless. There is no common ground anymore. Nobody takes into consideration how they are making somebody feel, and it's these people that end up leading other people's lives to an early grave. Suicide rates have certainly risen in the past few years, and the underlying cause of these suicides is bullying. The world needs to remember that bullying isn't something to be proud of and it isn't something to feel clever about. Bullying leads to suicides, it leads to a broken person, it leads to the person being bullied to feel so rubbish about themselves that they lock themselves away and hide from the world.

Granted some people get over bullying. For example Lady Gaga. She was bullied through her child hood and she is open about it. She has explained how it made her feel when she was called a "freak" or "abnormal" but look at her now. She's taken the world by storm. created a name for herself, used her "freakiness" to gain popularity and she has set up a foundation to help stop bullying for good! She's using all the power she has in herself to stop others feeling how she did and to me she is an inspiration for that!

Recently I believe the majority of people have seen the two open letters between Gaga and Sharon Osborne. Gaga clearly wanted her letter to be an open one because she wanted the world to see that she was being genuine and sincere about her apology for what her 'little monsters' have been saying about Kelly. However Sharon's retaliation was not only inappropriate but also unsettling as it showed her to be a bully. The way she victimised her daughter Kelly and slandered the good work Gaga has been doing with the Born This Way Foundation doesn't show her to be professional or in any way, shape or form a role model for the younger society.

Sharon didn't want Gaga's 'little monsters' to bully her daughter Kelly or to call her names or slander her appearance but what does Kelly expect when all she does on E! is bully other celebrities? If she is going to be cruel and throw vicious comments at other celebrities then she should expect to be bullied in return. The 'little monsters' who were bullying Kelly weren't being 'little monsters' at the time, they were being fans of celebs that were being attacked by Kelly. And worse of all Kelly knows how it feels to be bullied from throughout her child, teen and adult years. She was always bullied for being plus sized and for looking the way she did. And now she has the body she wants she thinks it's okay to bully others because now she looks perfect, nobody can bully her in return.

THIS IS NOT OKAY!

You should not bully, no matter what! If you have problems with yourself DO NOT make others have a problem with them selves. If you have issues at home and need a "pick me up", DO NOT make others unhappy to match your unhappiness.

Bullying is a vicious circle. You get bullied, turn into a bully and then get bullied again and it continues in a circle on and on until finally something cracks, until someone commits suicide, or until someone goes under the knife to be this "perfect" specimen.

Sharon Osborne has proved that she is a bully even at her age. Gaga did not in any way try to belittle Kelly or bully Kelly, however Sharon outburst in her letter about Gaga's fashion choices and her views and opinions.

And after reading both letters it is easy to see that there is a simple equation..

Sharon = BULLY
Gaga = VISIONARY

Would you rather be a bully?

Would you rather make somebody else's life miserable because of some underlying problems that you have?

Would you like to live with the guilt of bullying somebody so much that they commit suicide?

I hope not! Because this is not the type of world we want to live in. In my opinion bullying should be illegal and those who bully should be prosecuted. Bullying can lead to all sorts of problems for one's future.

DO NOT BULLY! is the main message of this blog.

But it has made it clear to all that a bully is just another broken person, just like you.

My advice?

If you are being bullied then go and speak to somebody about it, a teacher, a parent, or a peer. Do not let the bullies get away with it and together we can fight this!

Join the BORN THIS WAY FOUNDATION run by Gaga and her mother Cynthia! Unite as one to bring bullying to a complete halt.

DO NOT LET THOSE BULLIES GET AWAY WITH RUINING AN INNOCENT PERSON'S LIFE!

IT IS NOT FAIR ON THESE PEOPLE.

Do not let someone commit suicide by letting bullies get away with it because they will not feel guilty if somebody kills themselves because of bullies. They will not care how they make a person feel.

Bullies are BROKEN! Bullies are HURT! Bullies are SELFISH!